Week 24 – Be the observer

It sounds easy to do..,just be the observer. It is a lot harder to do.  Just taking the time to think about being an observer is difficult.  For me, anyway. What I’ve noticed is how much of an observer I am not.  I had great intentions this morning of being the observer, and I failed miserably.  I can’t remember any time today that I was observant. I’m sure there are many benefits and I could learn a lot.  It’s something I don’t think I’ve ever done.  Consciously, anyway.  I’m not talking about being an observer at the movies or football or baseball games.  That’s different.  I wonder how many people are observers?  This is something I have to work on and become more conscious of doing.  I’m feeling a little overwhelmed in trying to think of how to do this.

Well, on another subject…I enjoyed watching the video about working on solutions by writing with your non-dominant hand.  I thought it was pretty amazing that the answer to the same question could be different just by using the non-dominant hand.  I think I can handle this project.  In fact, as was suggested, I think I will brush my teeth tonight with my non-dominant hand as a start.  I will be doing more of these exercises to see what I come up with.

There’s so much I don’t know, but so much I am learning!  Some easy, some hard.  Maybe that could be considered an observation.  I want to become a better observer!  I am looking forward to becoming a better observer.  Practice makes perfect and there’s no better time than now to start!

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Week 22 -Can I control my comfort zone?

Aha, my comfort zone controls me until I learn to control it!  And to realize that my comfort zone is made up of fear, guilt, unworthiness, hurt feelings and anger.  Some of them were good buddies of mine!

What gave me hope is that we are pre-disposed to IMPROVE!  There is hope, always, everlasting hope!  It’s pretty cool to see how we can use turn around all those feelings above, by changing our thinking. It’s all in how I change the way I look at things.  I want to list some of the ways I can change the way I look at things.

  1. I am worthy of anything I want, but not worthy of everything I want.
  2. Hurt feelings reminds me how much I care.
  3. Fear equals to energy to concentrate and focus.
  4. Anger equals energy to change.
  5. Unworthiness keeps us on track.
  6. Guilt is confirmation of my goodness.
  7. Tools only work if I pick it up and use it!
  8. The meaning of live is to find my gift.  The purpose of life is to give it away!
  9. Define this moment or it defines you!
  10. “BUT” is my comfort zone interfering.

So many lessons!  Much more than I can encapsulate here!

Week 21 – Resistance

I had a hard time this week relating to the lesson.  It was about miracles.  I believe in them, but I don’t think I’m the greatest miracle.  There are so many other people who deserve that title.  I am, however, grateful to be alive.  I think my old blueprint is trying very hard to keep me down.

I ‘m having a hard time blogging on this week’s lesson.   Can’t explain why.  It just is.  I think I need to be a better observer because I’m missing a lot!  I’m resisting and I’m confused!

Week 20 – The Dash

The Dash really hit home!  I think because it makes you face a reality that we tend to put off or push to the side because it’s easier than dealing with it.  I heard that story  before, but this time…it hit home!  Probably because I’m a little older, and hopefully wiser.

The bad news is that I have, maybe, 20 Christmases left.  The good news is that I have 20 more Christmases to live! There’s so much more that I want to do and have.  I feel like I got a reprieve and I can have a wonderful 4th quarter of my life!  When will I begin?  NOW!

20 Christmases left.  How can I make the best of what I have left?  That’s a good question and I think it bears putting aside the time to dream, again and now, with all my wisdom, I should have the answer in……???? I will promise to get back to dreaming and being more focused.  Time is running out!

Week 17 – Will my Heroes Journey even begin?

We’re about half way through this course.  It’s an amazing, sometimes overwhelming, certainly eye-opening, self action course.  I’m rather embarrassed to say that I only seriously started the sit about 2 weeks ago.  I did several sits in the beginning and tried to be a good student, and this was really my biggest downfall.  I could not find the time in the morning so I would do it at night,before I fell asleep,and many times falling asleep and not getting the benefits I could have.

I am now getting up a little earlier to do my sit and although it’s just a couple minutes of exercising in bed, it did start out with less than a minute…so I feel like I’m progressing.  I am pretty good with the other assignments, so it’s not a complete fail.  By the way, I’m beginning to enjoy the sit.  I wish I had more time to do it.

I can imagine that I would probably be in a better spot if I did all the assignments.  I feel that old blueprint tugging at me and not wanting to let go.  This is where my work is cut out for me.  It’s a little stuck on me at certain parts, and I’m still learning how to unstuck myself from it.  It’s crazy because there is nothing positive about it and it continues to sabotage me.  Will my Heroes Journey even begin?

YES!  I don’t know how or when, but I have faith and I will not give up!

A little bit about me – Better late than never and lucky, lucky me!

I remember my first Toastmaster’s speech.  You had to talk about yourself and I remember that was hard!  I also learned things about me that didn’t come up until I sat down to figure out what that speech was going to be about.   I remember the title, “Better late than never”.  Yes, many things happened later in my life, but I was happy that it did happen to me, even if many others experienced things earlier in their lives than I did.

It’s funny! When I discovered something about myself, it was always a surprise. As an example, other people would say that they liked being around me because I was positive.  I think it’s more that I was always happy around people, and I was interested in what they had to say, because it was more interesting than what I would have had to say.  I was surprised when my friend told me she had no idea that I was even considering a divorce, much less actually going through it.  That was when I realized I was not as open as I thought I was.  I didn’t want others to know.

I also believe that things happen for a reason.  Some things I still don’t understand why it happened, but that there was a reason.  Timing is everything is another one.  If it’s supposed to happen, it does, with very little obstacles in the way.  Well, most of the times things work out.

I also feel that even if I don’t presently have everything I would like, things could be worse!  Whenever I feel sorry for myself, I somehow hear about someone else and what they’re going through is worse, and appreciate what I do have. Actually, I feel pretty lucky!

I’ve been married for 29 years (wow! how time flies!) and I have a beautiful daughter who is 35 years old, living in Vegas. Drug free and working an almost full time job and also working a part time job to save her money so she can come back home (Oahu) to live.

Our favorite past time was cruising.  Not so much now, but we have the memories of our adventures to Europe, Australia, Machu Pichu, the Amazon, Antartica just to name a few!   How lucky am I!

I thought I’d be retired by now, but luck had it that I would find the most wonderful job in my life at the third trimester of my life and I think I’ll stick it out for at least another 3 to 5 years.   What could make me want to continue working?  I provide captioned telephones for those with hearing loss for FREE!  I do outreach, education and installations of these phones.  This is the most rewarding job I’ve ever had, and I don’t consider it work at all!  You see, better late than never!  How lucky can a person be?

Press Release – Better late than never

BETTER LATE THAN NEVER

That was her life theme that came up for Susan Jung all through her life.  But the big break came in her life one day at the age of 64.  She had many accomplishments before then, but it seemed the most important part of her life was just beginning at age 64.

It all started when the decision that would change her life, big time, was made in October 2016.  The process began while going through a self-action course.  Many things came up for her as she delved into this strange, new course that she had heard about for months.

Best of all, she went through the course on a “pay-it-forward” scholarship.  The class before her paid her tuition and it would eventually affect over 3,000 students…a concept never heard of before!

One of the things Susan discovered was her major purpose in life, which was to show people how to have wellness in their lives affordably and have fun at the same time!

She also attained a goal that was 6 years in the making.  6 years in the making NOT because it was a difficult goal, NOT because she didn’t know how and NOT because she didn’t want it.  It was because she was NOT focused and committed.

She reached Senior Director status with Melaleuca in May 2017.  Her check for that month was $7,188.26. She still feels the goose bumps every time she remembers seeing the check!  This was just the start of many great things to come!  If you ask her to describe that moment, she would say that she didn’t really know how that day was coming, but she visualized that day every day for seven months…down to the amount of the check.  She was so ecstatic and having reached Senior Director status, she knew nothing could stop her.

As she re-lived that momentous time in her life, she says she remembers hearing the emcee announce her name as a new Senior Director at their convention in May, 2017.  She heard the positive music playing in the background as she walked the length of the stage and received a beautiful necklace that was her badge of honor for all her hard work.  She could hear the cheers from the Hawaii group honoring her achievement.  She walked off the stage full of energy and happiness.  She also knew that before the end of the year, she would receive her new car paid by Melaleuca.

Susan was thrilled to share the good news with her daughter, Janessa, as she spent a couple extra days visiting her in Las Vegas.  It was so nice to be with her daughter, as she re-lived the special moment and showed off her new necklace which meant the world to her.   Janessa was happy for her and even happier when she received a check from her mom that was made possible because of the bonus check she received.

She also started planning her exit strategy from her full-time job.  After seeing how successful she was with Melaleuca, she talked to her managers and started on a part-time status with OEI in January 1, 2018.  At the same time, she began her new adventure with Melaleuca.  She knew that meant more traveling!  She would be visiting her daughter every year after the Melaleuca convention in May.

She planned a Princess cruise in 2019, and on her 70th birthday, August 11, 2022, she was on her way to Las Vegas with a bunch of her friends.  This lady was having the time of her life.  In the meantime, she was receiving a residual check from Melaleuca of over $5,000 a month as she was in her prime!  Her health was at its best and her income was where she could continue her new, exciting lifestyle for many years to come!  And she was finally debt free!

Better late than never!